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Dec. 1, 2023

Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery: Healing from Past Hurts

Rebuilding Relationships in Recovery: Healing from Past Hurts

The holiday season is often a time of celebration, joy, and togetherness. However, for those in recovery, it can also be a time of stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions. One of the most challenging aspects of the holidays for those in recovery is rebuilding relationships with loved ones who may have been hurt or affected by their addiction. In this article, we will explore the importance of healing from past hurts in recovery, how to make amends during the holiday season, and resources for those struggling with sobriety during the holidays.

 

Healing from Past Hurts in Recovery

 

One of the most important aspects of recovery is healing from past hurts and repairing relationships that may have been damaged by addiction. This process can be difficult, but it is essential for long-term sobriety and overall well-being. In order to heal from past hurts, it is important to take responsibility for our actions, apologize for any harm we may have caused, and make amends to those we have hurt. This can be a difficult and painful process, but it is a necessary step in the recovery journey.

 

Making Amends During the Holiday Season

 

The holiday season can be an especially difficult time for those in recovery who are trying to rebuild relationships with loved ones. However, it can also be a time of forgiveness, compassion, and healing. Making amends during the holiday season can be a powerful way to show your loved ones that you are committed to your recovery and to repairing the damage that has been done. Here are some tips for making amends during the holiday season:

  1. Take responsibility for your actions: Acknowledge the harm that you have caused and take responsibility for your actions. This can be difficult, but it is an important step in the healing process.

  2. Apologize sincerely: Make a sincere apology to those you have hurt. Be specific about the harm you have caused and express your regret.

  3. Make amends: Take action to make things right with those you have hurt. This can include restitution, acts of service, or any other actions that show your commitment to repairing the relationship.

  4. Practice patience and understanding: Rebuilding relationships takes time, and it is important to be patient and understanding with yourself and others. Keep in mind that forgiveness is a process and it may take time for your loved ones to fully trust and forgive you.

 

Resources for Those Struggling During the Holidays

 

The holidays can be a challenging time for those in recovery, but there are many resources available to help support you through this time. Here are some resources to consider:

  1. Support groups: Attend support groups, such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, to connect with others who understand what you are going through.

  2. Therapy: Consider working with a therapist who specializes in addiction and recovery to help you navigate the challenges of the holiday season.

  3. Hotlines: Reach out to hotlines, such as the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline, for support and guidance.

  4. Faith-based resources: Connect with your faith community for additional support and resources. Many churches and religious organizations offer support groups and counseling services for those in recovery.

 

The Bible teaches us about the importance of forgiveness and making amends. In Matthew 5:23-24, Jesus says, "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift." This teaches us that we must prioritize healing relationships with others before we can fully commit to our spiritual journey.

Another verse that speaks to the importance of making amends can be found in James 5:16, which says, "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective." This emphasizes the importance of acknowledging our wrongdoings and seeking forgiveness from those we have hurt.

In addition, the holiday season is a time to reflect on the blessings in our lives and to give thanks for the love and support of our family and friends. Psalm 136:1 says, "Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever." This reminds us that we should always be grateful for the blessings in our lives, even during the difficult times.

The holiday season can be a time of healing, forgiveness, and renewed relationships for those in recovery. By following the steps of making amends, seeking forgiveness, and practicing understanding, we can heal from past hurts and rebuild relationships with our loved ones. Rebuilding relationships in recovery is a challenging but essential part of the recovery journey. During the holiday season, it can be especially difficult to navigate the complex emotions and relationships that come with addiction and recovery. However, by taking responsibility for our actions, making sincere apologies, and taking action to make amends, we can begin to heal from past hurts and rebuild relationships with our loved ones. Remember that recovery is a journey and it is important to be patient,  and committed to the process. If you are struggling with sobriety during the holidays, know that you are not alone. Reach out to the resources available to you, and remember that it is possible to find joy and peace in recovery, even during the most challenging times. Most importantly, hold onto hope and trust that the journey of recovery is possible, even during the most challenging times.